Guilty Without a Trial
Guilty without a trial – Be okay with the good and bad opinions of others.
You were having an excellent day just before you learned that sister A thinks you’re a wicked soul without a note of empathy and a staunch liar, all because sister B told her some hurtful things that weren’t true.
As you’re trying to get passed that, you realize that brother A has put you on the block list and ignored your ‘good morning greetings because brother B told him that you’re the devil’s 2nd child.
Now, you’re torn to pieces. How could they believe others without asking you to defend yourself? It’s not a fair trial if they found you guilty before the verdict. The unbearable pain in your chest when you realize that half the people you considered friends cut you off simply because someone somewhere told a story you would never get to defend. You’re petrified that they believe others even tho they’ve frolicked with your character and know the real you.
I don’t know about you, but these things are a reality to many people; I assume neither you nor I would not be excluded. It’s easy to say, ignore them; they’re not bringing food to the table, so forget they exist.
The truth is, it’s not the most straightforward task to sweep this under the rug and act all grown and hardcore; the pain does linger, especially when you can’t get over the fact that you have suddenly lost good friendships because someone narrated a verse you would never get to defend.
I’ll tell you something I’ve told myself in the past when I’ve held my head in my hands, wondering why some friend couldn’t give me the benefit of the doubt. I’ll suggest three things, and they’ll be simple.
- If your friends discard you over words from one party without ever hearing from you, they were never friends. I want to think that such people sought a reason to hate you deep down from the very beginning.
- True friends, authentic people would never judge you without fair reasoning.
- As painful as it seems, be okay with the terrible opinions of others. It won’t always mean that they’re right, but there are things you can’t change, and what a person thinks about you without finding the truth is one of them.
These simple three things do not make it any easier. Sometimes you’re cut off by people you think should know you enough to judge your character better, but people are people, and loyalty is rare. Most importantly, anyone, friend, or family who would do this to you shouldn’t be mistaken as a friend. True friendship is kindness, loyalty, rationale, and consideration in everything.
May we all know people that give us the benefit of the doubt on the worst hearing, and in the absence of that, I hope we’re able to live and be at peace with other people’s good and bad opinions of us.
Not everyone would like you, and you realize this even more as you get older. Some people would loathe you for just existing, and as terrible as that hurts, heal and be at peace with the things you cannot change. Lest I forget to mention, humans are generally fickle. It’s so easy for them to sway to the sensational liars. If you ever doubted that, let the story of Amber Heard and Johnny be concrete proof of how insane even the good folks would turn on you and still turn back.
One impossible thing is hiding the truth forever; it’ll always come to light whether anyone likes it or not, so dearest offender and wrongfully convicted, the truth would prevail in the end.