Triggers
Triggers. Just like when he says, “I love you, no one else but you.” but my brain could go on to interpret this line into tiny bits of everything that wasn’t intended. So, in essence, my interpretation would be, “I love you, some part of you at least, most likely the part that loves me but I have others, two and a half other women that share pieces of me, and one for the right hour that suits my present need.” So I’m hearing I love you, everyone else, and you, but I love you now.
Triggers, some dictionaries explained triggers, emotional triggers as ‘Emotional triggers, also called mental health triggers or psychological triggers, are things (e.g., memories, objects, people) that spark intense negative emotions. This change in emotions can be abrupt, and in most cases, it will feel more severe than what the trigger would logically call for.
It would further break it down into three types,
Anxiety, trauma, and anger. Read it here
Anyone could get triggered, anyone could have gone through a nasty moment that’s left their brain distraught, and their minds are broken beyond patching up. It’s the reality that some people live with, going through relationships and continuously sewing a web of exact patterns. Do you know what the result is? It’s the same heartache and mind ache just waiting around the corners and exploding in the faces of the people we hope would heal us permanently.
“But you see, there’s isn’t ever going to be a savior outside of yourself. Hoping another person would sew up wounds they can’t see isn’t the solution. Trust me, I do have triggers. Enough to tell you how important it is to stop in your tracks when it gets difficult to breathe and just say a silent prayer. A silent prayer when you’re in this emotional pit. the emotional pit that could reveal to you the bitter truth, you’re not ready“
Know your triggers. Know the words and actions from others that get you ticking off like crazy. Know who you are. With this knowledge, arm yourself with all the tools to master this weakness and do better, be better for yourself, and then the innocent person who tells you “I love you” next.
There would surely be a next.
Shallystoned
Triggers, I laugh….
I remember few weeks back, I said somethings that triggered someone and I saw a different part of them that I hadn’t seen before. I got mad at myself for making them that mad.
I don’t have the right to push someone to that extent that they couldn’t control their anger. Even if at a point they were wrong in the process of getting angry by doing and saying some hurtful things and in my head I was trying to play back the things I said and wondered why they were so angry but I came to realize that I can’t control how they react when triggered. I couldn’t even bring myself to get mad at the things they were doing with anger because I triggered them.
That experience was scary and unforgettable that I had to promise myself never to hurt anyone with my words again.
These are the things we need to start talking more about.
Thank you for always bringing our attention to mattes like this P❤.
Shallystoned
Shallystoned*Matters like this*
p.chidera.admin
ShallystonedA lot of things we do can trigger others and vice versa but it’s the consciousness that makes all the difference 🙂 I’m glad you realized your part and hopefully apologized for it 🙂 thank you so much
Adekoya kehinde
Nice reading triggers from another perspective and not from addiction thingy. Trust you know what I mean😁
Meanwhile, I don’t really get what you mean by “there would surely be a next”.
Like, there’ll always be someone out there to say I love you, or…
p.chidera.admin
Adekoya kehindehaha, yes, these particular triggers are not from an addiction perspective.
Your interpretation is correct 🙂 there would always be people that come into our lives at different points, all I’m saying is we all need to get ready and fix ourselves to receive them. In other words, someone would tell us they love us at some point, let’s be ready to know how to love them back without the chaos they have no hand in.