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who are you?
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Who are you?

It must have been one of the first sessions I had with my therapist. I remember that virtual meeting cause covid was happening, and I had to appear on that zoom call with my yellow, not fashionable hair bonnet almost resembling my problems. I remember being asked to switch on my camera and panicking because I would be caught unfresh, but the soothing voice from my therapist just did the magic, and there I was, struggling to smile or just be amused by my own anxiety. I mean, I had 99 problems underneath this façade, and a hair bonnet that didn’t make it to the wardrobe must-haves in 2020 shouldn’t even be my problem, but oh well, these are all the signs I needed therapy. Right.

The first question was, “how are you?” Of course, I said I was fine, that one’s easy, and my mind’s thinking, is this really what this will be about? would I be asked how brown I enjoy the coffee I don’t drink. She cut me off my raging thoughts with compliments about my eyebrows and how beautiful I looked without makeup and that, of course, that made me blush because she was damn right, not vainly speaking, but I did look amazing even before hitting the shower. This fact is true. The next question was, what do you want to talk about? And this is where it all started.

My thoughts weren’t in clear patterns, so I must have talked about everything, ranting about my friends, my family, my future, and my love life, the whole time wondering if she understood anything I was saying or just taking notes because I had permitted her to. Still, after what would seem like forever, it was her turn to ask me those questions that felt like someone took some mechanical tools and were keeping the iron doors open so they could peek some more and some more. In this case, it was some ransacking into my deepest thoughts, and I panicked.

Her question left my mouth open for some seconds as I battled with an intelligent response. Who are you? She asked again. I went, I’m.., I’m an Arc… then she cut me off and said, I want to know who you are, and by that, I mean, what is your core? Who are you? You could be jealous or impatient or not ambitious or kind; the answer that’s sought isn’t to judge what’s in the negative or positive; it’s to be aware of who you are, the awareness. I don’t think anyone ever explained it that way. I thought an answer to that question should always be of the great qualities you possess and all the greatness you represent, but I’ve been wrong. I’ve been so wrong.

“Who you are is your core, and you cannot change that.”

The only thing that happens is understanding after gaining this awareness, so if I’m impatient, I’m aware. When I deal with others, I have to recognize that they aren’t at my own pace, which gives me the balance to how I perceive and consider the people around me. The balance is what we all need, nothing gearing towards an extreme, nothing different from our core, so we don’t suffer in misery. Just balance that comes from awareness.

“Who am I? I’m an Ambitious, Compassionate, Kind, Romantic, Jealous, Impatient, Clingy, Competitive, Sensitive, Emotional woman who is a go-getter. Is who I am all the pros or cons? I don’t think of it that way; I never will think of it as an advantage or disadvantage. I would only be aware and keep creating the balance in very conscious efforts.”

Your turn, Who are you?

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  • Shallystoned
    April 15, 2021

    Wow, I have never thought of that question the way you did. By your response, I now understand the question “who are you” mean.
    Who am I? I am Jealous, competitive, emotional, strong, fearful, impatient, passionate and talented girl.

    I will never view this question “who are you” the same way I use to anymore…I felt every word you wrote.

    Reply
    • p.chidera
      Shallystoned
      April 15, 2021

      It’s a whole level of awareness we all should have someday. a very wonderful feeling to understand who we really are 🙂 thank you for reading

      Reply
  • Uloaku Aniagu
    April 15, 2021

    I am Uloaku Chisom Jessica Aniagu, a compassionate, health care/IT worker. My purpose is to have a positive impact on people that I meet and leave behind a lasting legacy .I believe laughter is the best medicine, laughter will brighten up someone’s day. The ability to have a laugh at ourselves and our mistakes is a virtue. I was born into this World with nothing and I want to leave behind something positive in my lifetime.”

    Reply
    • p.chidera
      Uloaku Aniagu
      April 15, 2021

      All that you are is beautiful!

      Reply
  • Sophia
    April 15, 2021

    Wow. It brings a whole different level of understanding and i never really thought of. Nice one Precious

    Reply
    • p.chidera
      Sophia
      April 15, 2021

      Thank you, Sophia. I’m so glad I could share something new

      Reply
  • Roberto Valentine
    April 15, 2021

    Oh my God! Well written. It managed to surpass my high expectations AND be nothing at all like I expected. “Double Plus Good.” #BlackExcellence

    Reply
    • p.chidera
      Roberto Valentine
      April 15, 2021

      Thank you! I’m so happy! 😃

      Reply
    • Marta
      Roberto Valentine
      April 15, 2021

      Tell us who you are 😜😋😊

      Reply
  • Martha
    April 15, 2021

    I’m strong, spontaneous, smart, loving and fun to be with. Thanks for this beautiful piece! You deserve an accolade ❤️ Way to go girlfriend 😊

    Reply
    • p.chidera
      Martha
      April 15, 2021

      Thank you! 😁

      Reply
  • Tijesuni Daini
    April 16, 2021

    i am a loving, annoying,hardworking, focused, lazy, competitive, fun, artistic, creative person. Thank you precious for this wonderful article .

    Reply
    • p.chidera
      Tijesuni Daini
      April 16, 2021

      Thank you! 😊 Every way that you are is amazing!

      Reply
  • Adekoya kehinde
    April 16, 2021

    This is enlightening. Thanks for sharing. I’m on it. Time to be aware of who I really am.

    Reply
    • p.chidera
      Adekoya kehinde
      April 16, 2021

      Yes! The time is now!

      Reply
  • Rita Bran
    April 16, 2021

    You deserve an award, what an enlightening piece into the real meaning of who I am. Thank you

    Reply
    • p.chidera
      Rita Bran
      April 16, 2021

      Thank you! I’ll get that award soon 😃

      Reply
  • Puti
    April 16, 2021

    I’ll have to read this piece over and over again, maybe then I can reply with total conviction cuz some things still remain unclear

    Reply
    • p.chidera
      Puti
      April 16, 2021

      It’s definitely not an easy answer. Take your time, you’ll definitely know it soon 😊

      Reply
  • Nonso Baby
    April 16, 2021

    A great piece! Very interesting and enlightening. Thanks for sharing.

    Reply
    • p.chidera
      Nonso Baby
      April 16, 2021

      Thank you!

      Reply
  • Chisom
    April 16, 2021

    Finally.. she writes!!
    Reading your write ups or text has always been one of my favorite things to do . . While I hope to continue enjoying it.. I hope to learn from a creative mind I have always adored.. so I read with a keen interest!
    Chisom Udeh

    Reply
    • p.chidera
      Chisom
      April 16, 2021

      My friend!😃 I finally got the courage to put my words in the open. Thank you for all the encouragement from way back. She would continue to write!

      Reply
  • Ruth
    April 16, 2021

    I love this 🥰 i love you ❤️
    Thank you for sharing 😊

    Reply
    • p.chidera
      Ruth
      April 16, 2021

      Thank you darling! 😊❤️

      Reply
  • ezemba chioma
    April 16, 2021

    At the end knowing who we really are is all that makes the difference. Thanks for brightening up my day with such an amazing piece. Nice one precious.
    Go girl!

    Reply
    • p.chidera
      ezemba chioma
      April 16, 2021

      Thank you so much!

      Reply
  • Daniel
    April 18, 2021

    Such an insightful piece. Being aware of who you are at your core is so important! Thank you for this. I look forward to reading many more of your posts.

    Reply
    • p.chidera
      Daniel
      April 19, 2021

      Thank you Daniel!

      Reply
  • Lonimi
    April 19, 2021

    Lovely lovely piece, Precious. As we grow each day, we discover new things about ourselves if we are really paying attention and it’s good to always look inwards and be consciously aware of who we really are and how we can label our emotions.

    Reply
    • p.chidera
      Lonimi
      April 19, 2021

      You’re so correct. We’ve got to understand just how to label our awareness

      Reply
  • Emmanuel
    May 13, 2021

    Reading this helps me in ways I could not imagine
    Hopefully one day I’ll discover who I am

    Reply
    • p.chidera
      Emmanuel
      May 20, 2021

      Yes Emmanuel, one day you would 😊

      Reply
  • Hyrates
    May 20, 2021

    That’s the question I whisper to myself when I’m feeling down……who do you think you are?
    I am a deep thinker with free spirit and scared of temporary people touching my mind cause it will affect my body and soul.

    Reply
  • p.chidera
    May 20, 2021

    That’s a good one. I hope that you’d find the answer soon 😊 we all need to know who we are.

    Reply
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  • Peter
    June 10, 2021

    Hmmm…. “Know thyself o man”…. An ancient philosopher once admonished.
    As innocuous on the surface as the question “who are you? Is”, It’s one of the most annoying questions you’d ever be asked if you’re forced to answer it correctly… You’d break into sweat and start stuttering, then it really hits you that aside your profession and qualifications, you actually have no clue who you really are.
    Thanks Presh for forcing us to look deeply within. Still trying to figure out who I am though, when I do, I’ll come back to answer the question. 😌

    Reply
    • p.chidera
      Peter
      June 10, 2021

      I can’t wait for you to come back with the golden answer 😀

      Reply
  • Chinemerem
    June 25, 2021

    Beautiful piece 👏

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      Chinemerem
      June 25, 2021

      Thank you 😊

      Reply
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