“Is it love if the blue butterflies in my tummy aren’t merry in the first season of our love story?”
Sit down for this one, look closely at each line as I wrote this one for you, especially for you. You know how you say I love you on the 2nd day of the relationship’s honeymoon phase, how we tell the sweet nothings when the butterflies blossom in our tummy. You know that time you can’t breathe cause you think you’re in love. Yea, that time your teeth shine perfect at the mention of their names. That time, that time isn’t the love.
Those days when you see perfect and think it’s all it’ll ever be, oh no, that’s not the love, please. You know, I take way too long to declare my love for someone. It takes a while longer. I understand love as a very conscious effort that won’t form entirely after two weeks; oh no, it takes time. It doesn’t happen after you’ve seen each other four times in 2 months. No, it forms after you’ve known them, and I don’t mean marking the 73 birthmarks I’ve found on my skin. In truth, love knows the other person for who they are, not who you want or expect them to be; it’s being aware of their flaws and accepting them just as is.
“Love is an acceptance of all the ways the human in front of you is imperfect, incapable of a lot, flesh and mostly sand and you still want to be with them. The days they can’t be too expressive, The ways they’re still learning how to act and you’ve become aware of their efforts and you still accept them.
When you’ve eliminated the desire to change them for whatever reason – That’s where the feelings stem.”
I’ve made mistakes, said those words when I didn’t mean them, worse when I didn’t even feel them for myself. You know how they say you can’t give what you don’t have; that’s how it is. The first rule, be kind to yourself, accept your shortcomings. Accept the minuses. Be able to answer who you are, know it, be aware of it, and treat the person in front of you with that same kind of understanding.
Someone said a lot of us are incapable of love; it’s true. We hurt and tear down others with the mind games of who breaks first. Zero intent to be vulnerable. That’s scary. Take your time, see things through the seasons, gain understanding, decide before you make that declaration.
Love yourself so you can love another.
Your turn, how do you tell the love is true?