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No Response Is A Response

“Wise men once said no response is a response but why won’t you believe that. Do you enjoy the ways grown adults march boldly over your heart like red flesh of raw feelings is the newest type of grass? Are you so blinded by the dark sweet desire that you’d hurt a million times over?”

It’s a beautiful Thursday, beaming sweet July smiles left to right from all the excitement that I have had in the last few days, but somehow I’m searching for the core of the silent anxiety I feel. There’s something. There must be something. Maybe it’s the weather today or just some itch that I have unlocked something, something I’d share with you.

First, hear it again; no response is a response. As with the norm, I always have a story, a longer one that I’ll shorten. Once upon a time in my life, I would have given anything to get back all that I have lost; I would have bitten myself so hard for all the ways I’ll always be imperfect, blaming myself for all the mistakes that aren’t unlikely for humans to make. Hating all the memories from my errors and how I hoped I’d grow faster, but it doesn’t work that way, life is a journey, and it stays that way.

Here’s the thing, love is beautiful. It’s every bit of perfect when you can give it and receive it, but there’s another less beautiful part of it – the part where you’re not receiving it, and what do you do? Well, if you’re naturally normal, you’d fight and push and yearn, doing all the things that wise men disagree with so that you get the other person in the same circle as you are. This exact spot where they could also feel all the good intentions streaming from your heart. So it’s like what more extraordinary magic will I conjure next, so you see that my soul has the purest desire for you – tough love, adamant.

On the other hand, there’s no response, at least not the type that should encourage you to keep pushing. There’s dead silence with confusion staying loudest, but you can’t give up, right? How could you? You love them to death, and in this life, they must realize it, or else they would be no meaning to your existence. Wow! That’s a true lover’s line, but that’s not it. I’m sorry, but that’s not the definition of your existence.

I tell you today, as I told myself too many times, you’ve got to love yourself, so much so that whatever threatens your peace and makes you less unique cannot exist within you. It’s simply not for you. You need to trust what you believe, your faith, your God, trust and acknowledge that you won’t hurt forever. Yea, you might hurt for long, but it’s not forever.

Now, what do you do? Don’t stare too long at the messages that weren’t answered. Realize the honest answer you’re ignoring. Please don’t hold the phone closer to your chest cause their last picture said they were bored, so you’d get a call in 5. Don’t do that. Don’t hurt yourself, and please bring your attachment under control. I wrote once about selfish desires and how rejection is pure pain but what’s closer to dying is holding on to something that’s not holding you back.

If you think you’re running out of time, well, how do you even know the miracle that’s going to happen next Thursday. You don’t. No response is a response, know this and know peace.

Your turn, encourage someone wallowing in pain from love lost. Tell them no response is a response.

No Response is A Response.

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  • Rita Branno
    July 29, 2021

    No response is a response because they say silence is words

    Reply
    • p.chidera
      Rita Branno
      July 29, 2021

      Silence can be so loud 😀

      Reply
  • Anita
    July 29, 2021

    This is so true. I love this so much girl🤩. Keep up the great work. No RESPONSE is a Response.

    Reply
    • p.chidera
      Anita
      July 29, 2021

      Thank you, Anita! 😍

      Reply
  • Peter Ifeanyi
    July 29, 2021

    “Silence is the best answer given to a fool” 🤣🤣🤣
    That used to be the most savage clapback while I was a kid.
    Silence is so powerful, It’s just like a blank cheque. You can fill in the answer.
    It hurts even more than rejection because it denies you of closure and thus robbing you of peace .
    But just cut your losses and move on.
    It will hurt, but you’ll leave .
    Deviating a little, silence can be used as a tool for intimidation. You appear more menacing, intense or imposing when you stay silent. It makes people nervous and then mad. That’s you controlling their emotion even without saying or doing anything; that right there is power 😎
    Another Presh classic 😊😊

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    • p.chidera
      Peter Ifeanyi
      July 29, 2021

      Now, you went on and provided the world with steps to baby manipulation and baby mind control 😄 telling us silence is a tool for intimidating and controlling other people’s emotions. It would be best if you had ended at “cutting your losses and moving on.” 😂
      We’re going to have to ignore your lecture on gaslighting this one time 😄

      Reply
    • Peter Ifeanyi
      Peter Ifeanyi
      July 29, 2021

      🤣🤣
      Well, I do extra sometimes.
      The only gas lighting I know happens in the kitchen 😏

      Reply
    • p.chidera
      Peter Ifeanyi
      July 29, 2021

      Oh yea 😂 that too

      Reply
  • Adekoya kehinde
    July 30, 2021

    True. But no comment isn’t a comment😜 so I must comment.
    One big gain here is, love yourself so much cause its helps us to know when to stay in fight for love or walk away peacefully and fulfilled..

    Reply
    • p.chidera
      Adekoya kehinde
      July 30, 2021

      😂

      You’re right, the win is to love yourself so you know how to close the door on anything that threatens your peace.

      Reply
  • Shallystoned
    August 19, 2021

    No response is also a response, very true but knowing how to handle it will determine how much you love you.

    I see why I’m more at peace, because now
    I love myself more than ever and I put my happiness before anything. I don’t let anything control how I feel, because now I’m in charge of that, I let things unfold on it’s own.
    Loving yourself will help you know what you need to fight for or let go of.

    You’re right, we’ve got to love ourselves more.
    I love this so much. Thank you Precious for this amazing one❤

    Reply
    • p.chidera
      Shallystoned
      August 23, 2021

      Thank you ❤ loving yourself and understanding that there would be things beyond your control is a great path to stay on.
      In all we do, peace of mind is vital 🔑

      Reply
  • News Room
    May 4, 2022

    I’ll be subscribing to your feed and I hope you post again soon. Thanks , hlyn Steger

    Reply
    • p.chidera.admin
      News Room
      May 7, 2022

      Thank you 😊

      Reply

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